Treating the Whole Person In Psychotherapy

I’ve been really happy with some of the work I’ve been doing with clients lately and the frameworks I’m using in psychotherapy. I’m realizing that I have a really nice toolbox to work with a variety of different aspects of the human experience. As someone who only feels comfortable when I feel I’ve reached a level of mastery, and someone interested in continuous learning and growth, I’m feeling very lucky about having become a psychotherapist at this particular time in the field.

We’re able to do a lot of really interesting connecting the dots between psychotherapy, the human experience and brain (and other) science–for example Siegel’s notion of interpersonal neurobiology (which makes intuitive and professional sense to me)  For example, we already knew that people who have experienced trauma have challenges relating to regulating their nervous systems, and the nervous system’s impacts on their experiences of their brains and bodies. But, more and more, we know why, and we also know ways of providing significant healing experiences at a client’s pace. I’m thinking primarily here of both Brainspotting and Somatic Experiencing, each of which offer approaches that don’t rely on a patient’s ability to communicate using words.

This is a relief for me as a therapist, because I believe that knowledge/feelings/memories are sometimes stored in the brain and body in ways we can’t access with language and conscious thought. We can now do work directly with the nervous system via the body, and with memories via the visual field and the brain/mind. I deeply believe (based on my own life experience, and my experience as a clinician of observing my clients’ bodies during therapy) that as we work to integrate all knowledge about self-regulation and reworking negative experiences, therapists will increasingly treat the whole person. Bringing the unconscious into light and discussing drives, motives and past experiences is necessary and important work, but only part of the puzzle.

I’m really happy to say that I feel increasingly comfortable working with the following different aspects of people’s human experience to help clients. In my case this includes using some of the following approaches/strategies to inform my work:

  • For concrete assistance with improving client behavioral strategies and negative thinking: CBT.
  • For reducing overall distress/anxiety: Deep breathing, relaxation methods like progressive muscle relaxation and mindfulness exercises.
  • For insight: Object relations theory, narrative therapy, relational therapy.
  • For traumatic memories: Brainspotting.
  • For difficult body sensations: Sensorimotor Experiencing.
  • For understanding motivation for changing challenging behaviors/managing ambivalence: Motivational Interviewing.

I’m also a feminist therapist, and I use critical race theory to understand the more damaging aspects of how power works and replicates itself in our society’s functioning. These are also tools for considering the language we use to discuss the “isms” that permeate our lives.

There’s more, but this is a good start. In short, I believe in treating the whole person and helping people develop better coping strategies, experience more positivity in their lives, gain greater peace with their thoughts and bodies, and (of course) gain insights around patterns in their lives and how those patterns were inspired by history and personality.

Article: Checking In with Yourself for Self-Care

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Another way to care for yourself is to make time to check-in with yourself at the beginning of the day, and at the end of the work day, when you still have a little time left to engage in self-care.

Before you start asking yourself questions, take a moment to take a few deep breaths and center yourself.  Bring yourself back to the present instead of rushing ahead in your mind. Making time to acknowledge what you need, on many different levels, can  help you prioritize how you use your time that day. The hope is that when you arrive at the end of the day, you feel a greater sense of satisfaction and purpose.

  • What does my heart need today? What’s my interior emotional tone? Am I calm, nervous, worried, a little worn down, or sad? Once you acknowledge your emotional tone, ask yourself: What would be the best thing I could do to support my heart today?
    • Should I make some time to be quiet by myself?
    • Would reading a good book help?
    • Should I reach out to someone I love who loves me back?

Pick something you can do for yourself and schedule it into your day.

  • What does my body need today?
    • Am I tired?

If you’re tired, make sleep a priority for three nights this week. Schedule your bedtime.

    • When was the last time I had some vegetables or ate some fruit?

If this question is hard to answer, make a point of adding something from the garden to your diet today.

    • When was the last time I exerted myself or went for a nice long walk?
      • Ask yourself, can I add a little more walking to my day? If so, when can I do it?
      • Did I make a date with myself to go to the gym, or take an exercise class?
      • Can I ask a friend to join me in a physical activity?

Protect your time, mark it in your calendar.

  • What does my spirit need today? Should I make time to meditate, to laugh, read an inspiring text, journal or pray? How can I connect with the divine or spiritual in my life today? If not today, then when this week?

If this is a personal priority. Treat it accordingly. Make time for it.

  • What does my mind need today? Is there a question or activity or task that my brain wants to take on? Am I craving excitement, information, accomplishment, or something else? Once you acknowledge your mind’s needs, decide whether you can make time to act on this desire.

I’m placing the mind lower on the list of priorities, because I believe that our U.S. culture prioritizes the mind, and puts the body, heart and spirit last–which is why I’ve inverted the order in this particular article.

At first, acknowledging these different aspects of yourself and making time for them might feel strange, or even selfish. But the more you nourish all the different pieces of your self, the more you will be able to give back to the people who share your life.